Why Do So Many Teens Get Involved in Boy-Girl Relationships? (Part 6)

Let us look at the list of reasons once again as a recap:

1. They just want to feel loved and accepted by someone. √
2. They are looking for recognition among their friends. √
3. They just want to have sex. √
4. They want to satisfy their desire to get with the person they 'like' or have a crush on. √
5. They want to try it out and see for themselves how one is like. √
6. They're lonely and want someone to be with.
7. They miss their past relationship and want to taste it again. Like a 'bounce back' or something to do with their ex.
8. They want to 'dig' their BF/GF.
9. They are looking for a long-term commitment. But not marriage. 
10. They have a grotesque personal reason.
11. They hope that the person would be a suitable person to spend the rest of their lives with.

The next reason is number 6 - They're lonely and want someone to be with. Many times, because one feels all alone and that no one 'cares' for them, they would turn to romantic relationships to 'keep them company'.

The problem about trying to use relationships to 'cure' their loneliness is that the base root problem isn't solved. And his/her inability to make friends or have company would be also brought into his/her relationship. This would also breed insecurity which will affect the relationship in a big way. If the root problem isn't solved, the individual's problem of loneliness would reoccur. And he/she would be back to square one.

Instead of trying to cure loneliness with BGR, one should do some self-improvement and learn to make friends and keep them, thus taking care of the root problem. Once the root problem, one can enter into relationships with a clear mind. This would remove many problems that insecurities and loneliness could cause.

However, there are cases that when the individual learns from their relationship and 'discovers themselves'. In other words, he/she 'opens up' and learns how not to be lonely anymore. In cases like these, the aspects of relationships themselves solved their problem of loneliness.

There are many different outcomes when it comes to relationships. This is because every one of us is different. Thus, in the end, it's in the hands of each individual.

"To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough. But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be"

- Anna Louise Strong

take care,

~daN~

Why Do So Many Teens Get Involved in Boy-Girl Relationships? (Part 5)

Okay!! Sorry for the long break.

Let's now move on to the next reason. Reason 5 - "They want to try it out and see for themselves how one(relationship) is like".

This reason is caused by curiosity. Curiosity is something that every one of us has. We may not want to admit it, but curiosity gets us into trouble many times, hence the phrase "Curiosity Killed the Cat". So what can we learn from this? That we must be careful of our curiosity because it can make us do things that could harm us.

Many, many teenagers get involved in relationships because of this reason. And as I said in Part 4, it is up to the individual to decide whether it'll turn out okay. In almost all cases, relationships that are made because of this reason don't last long. However, their break-ups are much less painful. Why? This is because the individuals (most of the time) are young, and this was their first relationship. It was very casual and most of the time, both parties would understand that they were just 'trying it out'.

However, if they got serious and had sex or any form of it, then it'll be bad (unless both parties were 'playing around'). So, what one must do is to watch out for his/her curiosity; because it could cause drastic consequences.

"One's first love is always perfect until one meets one's second love"

- Elizabeth Aston

take care,

~daN~

Why Do So Many Teens Get Involved in Boy-Girl Relationships? (Part 4)

Okay, now let's move on to the next reason why teens get involved in boy-girl relationships. Reason number 4 - "They want to satisfy their desire to get with the person they 'like' or have a crush on."

"Guess what? I like ____ (person's name) and I wanna get with her!" "This girl I met the other day is so hot! I need to get with her!" Any of these sound familiar? I should think so.

In every one of us (of course there are exceptions), there is a desire to 'pair up' or get with someone. Usually, this desire 'kicks in' only after puberty. It all starts when the individual begins to notice the opposite sex in a whole new level. I think you guys know what I mean.

Some call it puppy love, others call it infatuation. Basically, it's a whole bunch of feelings that seem to not be able to be controlled. These feelings cause many things; for example, it would cause him/her to only see all the good points about the other person. This is how the phrase 'Love is Blind' came about.

Frankly speaking, that's not real love. Because, one cannot love another without knowing him/her. A lot of problems can arise when teens in relationships misunderstand what love is and isn't. But, that's a story for another day too.

In essence, the fourth reason is plainly due to the natural in-built desire to 'pair-up'. Personally, I think it's a valid reason for one to get into a relationship. However, for them to last long together, he/she must find a more meaningful reason in their relationship. Getting together because of their 'feelings' would cause one to see more in his/her life. It could be good, it could be bad. The power to sway the outcome in either direction lies in each individual. Handle your feelings with care.

"Perhaps the feelings we experience when we are in love represent a normal state. Being in love shows a person who he should be"

- Anton Chekhov

take care,

~daN~