Why Do So Many Teens Get Involved in Boy-Girl Relationships? (Part 6)

Let us look at the list of reasons once again as a recap:

1. They just want to feel loved and accepted by someone. √
2. They are looking for recognition among their friends. √
3. They just want to have sex. √
4. They want to satisfy their desire to get with the person they 'like' or have a crush on. √
5. They want to try it out and see for themselves how one is like. √
6. They're lonely and want someone to be with.
7. They miss their past relationship and want to taste it again. Like a 'bounce back' or something to do with their ex.
8. They want to 'dig' their BF/GF.
9. They are looking for a long-term commitment. But not marriage. 
10. They have a grotesque personal reason.
11. They hope that the person would be a suitable person to spend the rest of their lives with.

The next reason is number 6 - They're lonely and want someone to be with. Many times, because one feels all alone and that no one 'cares' for them, they would turn to romantic relationships to 'keep them company'.

The problem about trying to use relationships to 'cure' their loneliness is that the base root problem isn't solved. And his/her inability to make friends or have company would be also brought into his/her relationship. This would also breed insecurity which will affect the relationship in a big way. If the root problem isn't solved, the individual's problem of loneliness would reoccur. And he/she would be back to square one.

Instead of trying to cure loneliness with BGR, one should do some self-improvement and learn to make friends and keep them, thus taking care of the root problem. Once the root problem, one can enter into relationships with a clear mind. This would remove many problems that insecurities and loneliness could cause.

However, there are cases that when the individual learns from their relationship and 'discovers themselves'. In other words, he/she 'opens up' and learns how not to be lonely anymore. In cases like these, the aspects of relationships themselves solved their problem of loneliness.

There are many different outcomes when it comes to relationships. This is because every one of us is different. Thus, in the end, it's in the hands of each individual.

"To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough. But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be"

- Anna Louise Strong

take care,

~daN~