Teenage Relationships and their Conflicts

Relationships. They seem to be what every teenager is talking about today. From how they would get into one, to the problems that they face during one, and to the heartaches and heartbreaks after they end one.

There are so many different aspects to teenage relationships - parents, friends, ex-s, jealousy; just to name a few. The subject of 'Sustaining' a teenage relationship and keeping it alive is such a big subject in itself.

Thousands of teenagers around the world ask themselves, 'Why doesn't my relationship feel like it did before?' 'Why don't I feel the same way about him/her anymore?' 'Why does my relationship feel so dry?' 'Can my relationship last any longer?' and many such questions.

Each relationship has their similarities. And yet, even more so, they have their uniqueness and differences.

In most conflicts and fights in a teenage relationship, the underlying causes are assumptions, misunderstandings, and past hurts never dealt with.

Some sound advice - If it gets too out of control and both parties are hurling accusations and issues that are not even related, take a deep breath and think, 'Why were we having the quarrel in the first place?' When it is found out, go straight to it and handle that as objectively as possible. Then slowly, one by one, handle the other 'accusations' and 'issues' that were hurled at each other by asking questions (not in a bad way). The key is to be absolutely honest. Never be sarcastic when you're trying to make things right. It'll take you nowhere but backwards.

Here are some guidelines when handling conflicts and fights in teenage relationships:

1. Always, ALWAYS be honest. Don't be afraid, take turns to speak what you feel. If your BF/GF loves you, he/she would be willing to hear you out.
2. NEVER be sarcastic. Sarcasm does nothing but break hearts and makes things worst.
3. As much as possible, keep the conflict between the two of you. Telling others will only make them gossip and complicate your relationship.
4. Try not to assume too much. Ask nicely, and you will find out.
5. Loosen Up!! Unless it's as bad as you catching him/her cheating on you, it's not THAT bad once you look at it. *if he/she was happly cheating then the relationship is over*
6. If you're quarreling face to face and not on the phone, give each other a nice, big hug after it's solved. It helps!! Really. :D
7. Say, "I Love You". (unless you don't anymore, then there's big problems)

*I've come up with this for teenage relationships, so it might not work in Marriage Life.*

"Loves starts with a feeling, but then becomes a Choice"

*think about it*

Keep loving,

~daN~

ps: Feel free to share your thoughts and ask any questions about any problems in teenage relationships.